13 BDSM Tips To Make Sex More Enjoyable

People who practice BDSM are privy to amazing sex lives. Not just because of the orgasms that result from living out fantasies, but because they indulge in the activity of being themselves in bed. With that in mind, BDSM tips to make sex more enjoyable don’t require you to turn your bedroom into a dungeon.

From cinematic exploration of BDSM in film (Maggie Gyllenhaal in Secretary is sophisticated and steamy) to the influence of BDSM in fashion, (are you rocking a ’90s style choker to work?) the once taboo lifestyle is seeping its way into mainstream culture, like most interesting subcultures have a habit of doing. And I’m not even talking Fifty Shades.

Kink is subjective. That’s what makes it fun and makes it not such a big deal. Plus, BDSM can teach you a lot about yourself, if you stop focussing on the cat-o-nine tails, and have an open mind. According to a 2013 Dutch study that compared the psychological characters of those who were into BDSM and those who weren’t, BDSM people are, on average, more extroverted, open to experience and conscientious, and less neurotic. They were also found to be less sensitive to rejection, more securely attached, and higher in subjective well-being than the comparison group. Remember, the objective of role play isn’t just to get off, but to expand your self-knowledge and capacity for empathy. Having said that, BDSM provides opportunities for hot sex. The following are lessons learned from BDSM that can make your sex life a little more enjoyable.

1. Communicate Like Life Depends On It

Talking about sex during sex is essential for having a healthy and fun sex life, noted Psychology Today. But some people get flustered in the heat of the moment integrating the brain and bod. BDSM makes this dichotomy totally false, and encourages people to communicate what’s on their mind. Another article in Psychology Today cleared up the misconception that BDSM was about abuse, noting that those who live a BDSM lifestyle value trust and communication.

2. Learn How To Open Up

As sex expert Gloria Brame told BuzzFeed, the most distinctive quality about BDSM is not the whips and chains, but the open mindedness about sexuality. “BDSM doesn’t have to follow any pattern,” she said. “And there is no one model for what a BDSM relationship can be.” With this in mind, remember that there’s no model for what your sex life can be. So let loose and release expectations.

3. Give Your Bedroom An Erotic Makeover

The Huffington Post suggested that borrowing from the BDSM practice of “setting the stage,” you give your bedroom an erotic makeover.

4. Play With Ideas Of Restraint

If you’re not into bondage per se, you can use the idea of playing with restraint, psychologically. In BDSM, this is called “edge play” (not to be confused with “edging” where, according to Cosmopolitan, you bring yourself/partner to the edge of orgasm and then hold back). Sex expert Dr. Sandra LaMorgese explained to Huffington Post that edge play is unexplored fantasy taken to the “very edge of your psychological limits.” She suggested you don’t hold back on what you want from a fantasy sexual encounter. Sexual freedom in your fantasies, she underscored, leads to powerful release.

5. Use Ice Cubes

The Huffington Post suggested you “run an ice cube down your restrained, blind-folded partner’s spanked bottom” if you’re looking to incorporate a little BDSM into your sex life. There’s nothing like ice when you break a sweat. Or better yet, when the air conditioning is already on full blast. How cool can you take it?

6. Speak Clearly To Tell Your Partner What You Really Want

Sexologist Dr. Carol Queen wrote in The Sex & Pleasure Book that when practicing bondage, where the capacity to “injure as well as arouse” is possible, you should employ the use of safe words, or codes for when you really want to stop. Safe words are clear. Clarity is essential for establishing boundaries in bed where you don’t want your lover to misunderstand you or your desires.

7. Break Out The Sex Toys

Whatever sex toy can bring your orgasm to the next level is worth giving a try. Clamps, a toy common in BDSM don’t have to be taken so seriously. But for the sake of my areola please take the time to know how to use a nipple clamp correctly. If the idea of clamps is too much for your sex life, you could try a squeezing your and your partner’s parts and see what that feels like.

8. Embrace Your Sexual Curiosity

If you’re new to BDSM, congratulations. XOJane explained that BDSM newbies have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, curiosity is insanely important to having a healthy sex life, and being a damn fine lover.

9. Become A Voyeur

Queen also wrote about “sex shame,” which results from a number of causes, usually that stem from an early sexual experience. Maybe you need to rewire your brain, she suggested, and replace negative notions you have about sex with healthier ones. Sex parties, common in the BDSM lifestyle, allow you to watch other people going at it, without any pressure to perform yourself. Hey, as Psychology Today noted, there’s a little voyeur in all people.

10. Get Kinky

A lot of what BDSM entails, explained Marie Claire UK, is a longer menu of sexual encounters. You’ve got more to choose from than genital to genital sex when you start thinking outside the box, (er, ahem) and explore. In fact, lots of BDSM kink doesn’t even involve contact with your privates. Now, go on and use that imagination.

11. Replace Lace With Leather Lingerie

There’s a reason leather is a mainstay of BDSM. Leather has a distinct taste, scent, and feel. Try swapping your lacy lingerie for a leather body harness and you’ll see what I mean. If a body harness is too much, start with leather pasties, or have sex wearing your leather motorcycle jacket. And nothing else.

12. Do Your Homework

You don’t have to be a sapiosexual to get turned on by knowing things. Researching what turns you on and how to execute your fantasy is BDSM 101. But, take away the bondage and domination, and anyone can benefit from reading about sexuality. Just because you need to brush up on some sex homework doesn’t make you bad in bed. Foodies read up on their favorite eats all the time.

13. Have Fun With Fetishes

What’s your fetish? Sex therapist Dr. Scott Jacobey told Men’s Health that fetishes come in all intensities. So while those into BDSM might act out fetishes on a higher level than some, not all fetishes have to be acted out with full throttle intensity to bring pleasure to you or your partner.

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9 Kinky Ways To Find Sexual Pleasure In Pain

What is BDSM? Well, although BDSM — bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism — has been around for a long time, it has recently enjoyed some time in the limelight thanks to 50 Shades of Grey. However, not only does the book only portray a partial representation of BDSM, it makes it seem unachievable to the average person.

Luckily, if you’re curious about this form of kinky sexual play, you don’t need to have a private jet and penthouse apartments all over the place à la titular character Christian Grey. BDSM is accessible to everyone who likes to walk a few kinky steps outside the mainstream.

The Rich History Of BDSM

Are you wondering what is BDSM, exactly? Well, the phrase is somewhat contested. Some people think the “S” stands for sadism (which came from the old pairing sadism and masochism, meaning liking to cause pain and liking to feel pain). Some think it comes from “submission,” as BDSM makes use of unequal power dynamics or the idea that someone is usually in charge (a “top”) and someone else is usually submissive (a “bottom”).

Whatever the case, this form of sexual play does turn modern sexual dynamics on their heads because it subverts traditional ideas that both people should be equally in charge in the bedroom. That’s why the idea of informed consent is so crucial… before two people take on these roles, they must both agree to them.

Speaking of roles, many people see the main driver behind BDSM as role-playing. People often enjoy playing different parts, especially in the bedroom. BDSM allows you to become a power-hungry dominatrix or a cringing submissive just as equally; it really depends on what you want to get out of it.

While this form of kink has been around for decades, it’s still being redefined every day, as people find it, experiment with it and make it their own. While it does have some well-defined characteristics — including bondage gear, whipping and pain-causing devices such as nipple clamps — it’s also a practice open to modification.

If you’re looking to play with a bit of BDSM in your sex life, here are a few ideas.

1. Restrain him, or let him restrain you.

Tying up is one of the classic BDSM moves and one that many people are familiar with. Tying your partner to a chair or a bed restricts their movement and gives you a kind of control over them you wouldn’t otherwise have.

And with their physical choices limited, your partner has to just lay there and enjoy themselves. The roles can be reversed as well, with you being tied up and your partner having their way with you.

2. Make some noise with a spank, cane, and slap.

Another prime tenet of BDSM is spanking, caning, and slapping. A little bit of pain heightens the pleasure for many people. The keyword here is a little bit. Most people do not enjoy severe pain, which will break them out of the mood. If you do decide to add in a little slapping and spanking, especially if you’re using riding crops or other tools, be gentle and ramp up slowly so no one gets hurt.

3. Use some devices to spice up the mood.

Devices aren’t to everyone’s taste, but some people really enjoy them. Some devices play to the submissive aspects of BDSM, including ball gags, dog collars, and leashes. Others are meant to cause pain, such as nipple clamps or clothespins. Regular sex toys can also play a role in this kind of sex play, as long as everyone is okay with how they’re being used.

4. Restrict your partner’s senses.

It’s a little frightening to have your senses restricted in any way. This can include putting on blindfolds or masks to reduce sight, using earplugs to reduce hearing, or restraints to reduce movement. Double check what you do before beginning so everyone feels safe.

5. Play the dominant or submissive role.

While role playing can take many forms, the dominant and submissive roles are two of the most common in BDSM. Sometimes it’s fun to order someone around, while other times it can be nice to be told what to do.

Choose your roles beforehand, then let the person “in charge” give the orders. Whoever is submitting during this session must follow them, or pay the price.

6. Whenever they break a “rule,” punishment is the answer.

Which leads you to punishment. Decide what the punishment will be beforehand, and then administer it whenever a “rule” is broken.

Perhaps the punishment is a light caning, or a kiss, or losing some sort of privilege, or being tied up tighter. Perhaps it’s performing a favor for the other person for a specified amount of time. Whatever the case, make sure it’s fun and adds to your enjoyment.

7. Bring titles into the game.

Everyone loves the dirty general fantasy, don’t they? If your partner makes you call him “sir” for the entirety of a lovemaking session, it can really add an extra spark. Of course, you should choose whatever title appeals most to you.

Perhaps “Your Majesty” or “Madam” would feel more appropriate. Stick to the titles throughout, and resort to your punishments for any slip-ups.

8. Get rough with it.

While rough play can involve spanking, caning, and slapping, it doesn’t have to. Instead, you can subvert norms of soft, gentle sex with rough replacements. For instance, you might flip your partner over when changing positions, or use a little bit when kissing him on the mouth or elsewhere.

As long as no one is actually getting hurt, a little rough physicality can take things to the next level.

9. Remember, always have a safe word.

While this step isn’t quite as “fun” as the rest of them, it is integral to making BDSM a safe and enjoyable experience for all. Because this form of sex play often relies on acting differently than you normally would, it’s important to choose a safe word to indicate when you’re no longer having fun.

If you’re restrained and you want out, for instance, or if you get hit too hard, you can say your safe word to indicate that you’re done with that particular form of play. You should also respect your partner when he uses it.

Of course, BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual. It usually is, but some people get pleasure from dominant and submissive roles and this type of play even without a sexual component. If that’s you, let your freak flag fly! As long as your partner is okay with it, that is.

BDSM can be a really fun way to liven things up in the bedroom, whether you’ve been with someone for years or are trying to see how flexible a new partner is. Whatever you do and whomever you do it with, just don’t forget that sex is a very personal and vulnerable act, and both parties must be comfortable with proceedings in order for it to be good, consensual sex.

BDSM is great for some couples, but others find it isn’t for them. No matter what your take, just be respectful and have fun.

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Sex Dungeon Bedroom Ideas: Lights, DIY Bondage, Action!

We are all about personalising your pleasure experience, and what better way than setting up your very own sex dungeon. When it comes to working hard and playing hard, this is just one great way to surprise your partner and take them deep into your dark, fantasy world.

We are here to help you explore pleasurable playful experiences with these sex dungeon bedroom ideas. But, before you let your kinky side loose, here’s just a couple of quick disclaimers:


Do not use DIY sex toys internally!

While we recommend personalising your pleasure, do be sure to keep safe, physically. DIY internal sex toys can be dangerous. Think bacterial infections and lost vibrations…

If you’re still unsure, check out some articles on the dangers of DIY sex toys.

Communication & Consent

Additionally to keeping yourself physically, mentally and emotionally safe, know your own boundaries and learn the boundaries of your partner.

Check in on them and ask for their consent. If you are unsure we came up with some more suggestions on how to ask for want you want in the bedroom.

One of the things to remember is that no matter how you are exploring pleasure, conversation is essential. If you are new to BDSM, know that DIY bondage needs specific attention when it comes to consensual non-consent.

Trust is essential. Come up with a safe word. For some inspiration, apparently the most popular safe word is “red” as it was used in the Fifty Shades series, with “pineapple” coming near second.

There is a fine line between pleasure and pain, so much so that Scientists actually know very little about it.

It has been known that BDSM has been linked as a tool to heal from trauma, making this space an extra sensitive one.

So, without further ado – let’s get to the sex dungeon bedroom ideas with some lights, DIY bondage and action!


Now for setting the scene. Nothing says anticipation like guiding your unassuming partner into a room… readily prepared for whatever you have in store for them.

How does it look? What does it smell like? How would it make your partner feel?
Lighting and atmosphere is not only vital, but remember to put your own personal spin on things.

Personalised touches to your sex dungeon can help you feel in control whilst simultaneously at ease with your new-found fantasy.

Hint: Remember your sex dungeon doesn’t need to be in the bedroom. What about the bathroom or kitchen? Maybe you have an attic or basement handy? Just be careful of sharp corners…

Get experimental with colours and materials to drape over furniture. A smart mood-light like Eve Flare can change the atmosphere of any room via your phone or through voice command by Siri. So when you are ready to set the tone, you can just say “ Siri, set the mood to sex dungeon!”.

Let your inner seducer come out to play. Just remember, it is your sex dungeon, and you can do what you want.

DIY Bondage

Restraint can be totally hot – just keep in mind your partner’s safe word. This section will offer some ideas for DIY bondage for beginners.

You can simply find objects around the home. A sleeping eye mask makes for a great blindfold. You could even use a suit tie and underwear for a gag.

If you plan on investing in some bondage materials online, just make sure you think about the materials you would like to use. This will help to personalise the experience.

Rope Bondage for Beginners

Also known as Shibari, Japanese rope bondage is a fun way to build up the sexual tension with you and your partner. Here are just two types of rope that Pete Riggs recommends for bondage for beginners:

Cotton: This wonderfully cheap material is light and made of natural fibres, making it a great for bondage for beginners. Plus they can come in an array of beautiful colours – once again you can personalise these to suit your sex dungeon. Riggs mentions to be careful though, as knots in cotton rope can be difficult to unpick…

“…which leads to swearing and frustration and a general lack of cool. The times when I’ve felt it most likely that I would need to use safety scissors to get someone out of rope, have all been times when I’ve been using this kind of cotton rope. So if you’re going to use it, keep those EMT shears handy.”

Jute: This is a popular bondage rope for beginners, as well as in Shibari expert circles. It does cost a little more, but feels really good on the skin and generally the easiest to tie and unpick knots. Riggs really rates it:

“Knots that look so-so with cotton or synthetic somehow look amazing with jute. It has a sort of liveliness to it. Excellent give and flex, and there’s something truly awesome about the way it moves in your hands and when you’re wrapping it around someone. It makes the experience of tying someone a lot more fun.”

When you are using rope bondage in your sex dungeon you want to be in control. Slowly pull the rope across their body to create friction when you are tying them up. Build the anticipation with softer and harder sensations. Mix being gentle and rough with your partner.

But Use With Caution:

One important thing to remember is you don’t want to cut off the blood circulation. Which is why in Shibari, the single column tie is the first rope bondage tie you should learn to avoid dangerous knots. Pete Riggs gives us a hand in that department in this simple video:


Bravo, Tada, Voila! Your sex dungeon is complete. You have tied up your partner. They are ready and (hopefully) willing, now you have a chance to play! Completely at your mercy, how do you want them to remember this night? You are in control of all the pleasure.

Play with their senses. That might be with sight and sound foreplay. You could make them watch you explore your pleasure. And let’s not forget the power of sound. Even a simple moan can often reduce someone to a blissful state, making for a great arousal technique. It is important to tease them here.

However, if you are feeling really naughty, you will want to check out Girl On The Net’s DIY spanking bench, allowing them your touch at the cost of pleasurable pain.

Maybe you want to explore some taste and smell foreplay. Be creative with a blindfold and have them taste different parts of your body.

For the ultimate personalised pleasure try Crescendo the body adaptable smart vibrator or Tenuto the wearable smart vibrator for men while they are tied up.

Whether you are teasing or edging your partner, using a vibrator is an essential tool, for beginners and the more experienced. Making them squirm or squirt.

The best orchestrator to conduct these is the MysteryApp. Connect your smartphone to choose which vibrating motors to turn on, surprising them and building up their sexual energy until they reach the point of no return.

Aftercare Afterthought

Reality sets in. Ease your way back into normality after ravishing your partner in your sex dungeon.

Take care to untie your partner and make sure you take time to focus on your creature comforts together.

Check in with your partner to find out their thoughts. Make sure they felt safe during the experience, especially if you want to do it again, and again, and again.

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Why Organic Dominant?

Why “The Organic Dominant”?

This is kind of an expression of a personal path in dominance. After years of trying to figure things out I have come to realize there was really never anything to figure out. It was me. That was what I was trying to find.

Like most I started in BDSM looking for those things that I felt keyed in on my dominance. For some this is rules and structure. For some this is flashy play or a harem. For some it is a specific way of being. For some it is a wild explosion of sexuality involving anyone and everyone they come in contact with.

I tried to focus on what I felt made me dominant. I thought of things such as Lord Byron. . .that gothic image of passion and romance. Ya. . .didn’t work well and I look damn stupid in a puffy shirt and riding boots just for the record.

I thought of the structured rules and formal rituals. That didn’t work out for me either and I tended to find it rather cumbersome. I felt like sub paragraph A, section 4, defines climax as. . . was always part of my play.

I tried wild, animalistic, passionate. . . they worked but not as a mode of being.

So, I contemplated for years, what kind of dominant am I? I thought about this for a lot of years. I mean a lot. Maybe I am dense or something but I kept mulling it over and rethinking it over and over again. What would define me? My art? My passion? My play style? Do I need more toys? Do I need flashier toys? What will fulfill that need in me?

Then I gave up. I just said fuck it. I stopped trying to find it and then it found me. I was looking all that time for what it would be when in fact I should have just been looking in the mirror and seeing what I am. My dominance does not come from anything external . . . it comes from accepting who I am, what I can do, what I like doing. By embracing myself, flaws and all, seeing my strengths and weaknesses, I see who I am. I see what I want. I know what I want and what I need and that gives me power.

My style of dominance comes not from an idea I aspire to but from the person I am. Yes, there is growth I want in myself but in accepting whom I am today; I am empowered to make changes I wish to make. By understanding what it is I want compared to what it is I need, I can understand my next step.

My dominance comes not from any idea but who I am or who I should be but in understanding who I am inside. It is homegrown, one of a kind, 100% organic and pesticide free. It is an organic dominance that comes from who I am, not who I think I am. To me, that makes all the difference in the world.

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5 Organic Kinks to Help You Get Your Freak On.

Interested in BDSM? Want to travel down a new sex path? Getting bored with vanilla sex but don’t quite know what to try? Are you on a budget?

Here are five options to step up your kinky side–organically.

1. Try Figging!

This is the practice of inserting ginger that has been carved into a specific shape—usually a plug—into the anus or the vagina. The practice originated in Ancient Greece as a form of punishment on female slaves. Now it’s used in the BDSM/kink community to create intense sensations from an easily found and easily effective item.

2. Prevail at Erotic Wrestling.

The best part is that no one has to wear those ridiculous singlets! Why? Because erotic wrestling happens while naked. This may be one of the easiest kinks to try. You and a partner strip down to your nothings and then try to pin each other. Everyone wins here. Some alternatives to try while erotic wresting include forced orgasm—you get your partner to orgasm while your partner tries to hold it back, or pin your partner down and give yourself an orgasm while partner is restrained.

3. Go Mudlarking!

Mudlarking is a sub-category of the sploshing fetish, which is a fetish based upon one becoming sexually aroused by different substances being applied to the skin. One can easily have some fetish-filled fun mudlarking—just go out after a nice rain, find a puddle and roll around. Enjoy the texture, the coldness, the overall dirtiness of getting it on in nature (just be careful to keep it outside the body).

4. Throw a Group Sex Party.

The more the merrier as the saying goes. Nothing really steps up the kink factor like adding another person or two (or three or four) to the mix. Obviously make sure everyone is drug and disease-free and come prepared with lots of condoms and lubricants. I recommend vegan-friendly Sir Richards Condoms and Sliquid Organics lubricants (animal glycerin has been known to cause yeast infections in women—that’s why paying a bit more for good lubricant now is worth it).

5. Create a Pervertable!

Kitchen utensils, clothespins, hairbrushes, even fallen branches from trees can actually serve multiple purposes, as in, they can be brought into the bedroom. Experiment with what you already own, particularly if you’re new to any sort of BDSM activity. Check-out how-to’s and guidebooks to make sure you’re kinking out the right way and no one gets hurt the wrong way. It’s always fun to DIY.

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Lesbian Bdsm and the Things That You Should Be Aware Of

BDSM is a giant umbrella term that covers all sorts of ideas and ways of gaining sexual satisfaction. It stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism. All these fetishes can work together, and one person (or couple) doesn’t have to stick solely to one component and fetish.


BDSM works for both homosexual and straight people. Actually, it’s as common for lesbians and gays as it is for your average Joes and ordinary Jennies. Women who love women also love some leather, latex, whips, and other all-out kinky things. But do their relationships work the same as straight BDSM ones do? Well, let’s find out.

Top and Bottom (Dominant and Submissive)

The first and most obvious difference between lesbian BDSM and all other types of it is that the terminology isn’t quite the same. Namely, the dominant partner in a lesbian relationship is usually what we call the top. On the other hand, the submissive one is the bottom. The terms are pretty much self-explanatory, but there’s more to them.


In some lesbian BDSM relationships, there are roles like service top and power bottom too. The latter is what some also refer to as topping from the bottom. Either way, the point is that there aren’t necessarily rules that everyone should obey. Unlike in traditional relationships, fetish ones exist to deconstruct roles and spark new life in your relationship.


One day, one partner can feel like the top, and the other like the bottom. If that’s okay with the other partner, there shouldn’t be a problem. The point is to have fun and enjoy your bodies, no matter if you’re acting submissively or dominantly. The only thing to worry about is consent, as, without it, there’s no safe BDSM practice.

The 1980s SSC Practice

For BDSM to work — straight or homosexual — it must include consent from both parties. Ever since the 1980s, the SSC motto has been what many organizations and individuals into BDSM have abided by. SSC stands for safe, sane, and consensual. All three are necessary for couples to enjoy BDSM and sex in general to its fullest.


Due to its nature, BDSM can be quite tricky when it comes to unfortunate court hearings. However, if people participating in it respect the SSC practice, any charge can be dropped due to mutual consent. Of course, things aren’t as simple sometimes, but it’s essential that before you do anything with your partner, both of you say yes.


But the SSC isn’t the only code BDSM couples go by. There’s a certain RACK (risk-aware consensual kink) code that focuses more on individual responsibility. Unlike SSC, RACK is all about taking responsibility for what you’re going into. Interestingly enough, supporters of these two codes aren’t really fond of each other’s ideas.

Bottom’s Psychological Break-Downs

Although BDSM isn’t exactly something new and totally unknown to mainstream audiences, it’s nowhere near acceptable for most people. The thing is, not everyone can handle certain aspects that come with this kink. This is best seen when it comes to bottoms (submissives) and their psyches breaking down during certain BDSM acts.


This topic is related to all types of BDSM couples, not just lesbian ones. Because, just like we know, both men and women can break easily due to pressure. This isn’t exclusive to one gender. Nevertheless, to lower the risk of breaking down, it’s key for participants to slowly start their journeys into the land of bondage and discipline.


Just like incorporating a new sex toy into your bedroom, going into BDSM all guns blazing is probably the worst idea couples could have. Starting slowly and introducing each new idea gradually is what makes BDSM pros. So, if you’re a lesbian, don’t go all savage by whipping your lover, or don’t allow them to stop your breasts with their high heels immediately.

It’s a Common Fantasy

The idea of being dominant or submissive is pretty much the most popular one across all genders, sexual orientations, etc. Aside from multi-partner intercourse, some form of BDSM revolves around every other person’s thoughts. Moreover, lesbian couples who don’t consider themselves BDSM ones share much with this kink.


The reason why BDSM is such a popular fantasy is that its elements often trespass into other genres of sexual activities. From nipple play which is almost rudimentary in any relationship, to blindfolding and rough sex, all of us have a taste for it. All this means that if you eventually meet a new girl partner, the two of you could enjoy BDSM pretty much from the get-go.


In case you start a BDSM lesbian relationship, you mustn’t forget about safety codes (SSC and RACK). You can choose whichever suits you and your partner better. Either way, the point of fantasies is to make them safe. We can dream all we want about this or that, but if it concerns someone’s safety, it’s best to leave it out.

Some Lesbians Hate BDSM

Some women who are attracted to other women don’t really like BDSM and all its derivatives. This is especially true if they consider themselves to be feminists.


Namely, when it comes to feminism, there are two main views on BDSM. One is all about accepting it as a legit form of expressing female sexuality, while the other views it as women-hating violence incited by the patriarchy.

But can women-hating violence exist in a lesbian relationship? Well, yes — women who hate other women do exist, and they can be lesbian. Okay, maybe not lesbian, but they pretend to be so to attract and attack other women. However, let’s not get into this topic. It’s in the thriller territory, and this article is about fun and enjoying our bodies.


Even if we said many people — women included — enjoy BDSM as their number one fantasy, it doesn’t mean that everyone will view it positively. Some simply don’t enjoy any of BDSM’s essential elements (from bondage to masochism), while others, unfortunately, believe all the bad media that surrounds this fetish.

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Things you need to know about your nipples

Our nipples are definitely a sensitive topic for many. A lot of people don’t pay a lot of attention to them until they notice something that seems unusual. When that happens, they go into panic mode. So here are some things you need to know about your nipples that will put your mind at ease.

1. It is normal for nipples to increase by a few inches

Something not all of us know is that nipples can grow throughout our lifetime. This is usually something that causes concern to many people. Still, we’re here to tell you that it’s perfectly normal. In fact, you should totally expect it.

So do nipples grow randomly, or is there a reason behind their growth? Actually, everything happens for a reason, and the same applies to nipple growth. Nipples can grow when you’re in puberty. During this time, your body will start producing estrogen, which is a hormone that will affect your entire body (not just the nipples).

On the other hand, your nipples and areolas can change in size during pregnancy. Your body is simply trying to prepare you for a baby. Your areolas can also stretch when your boobs grow or when you gain weight. Why? They’re a part of your skin too.

2. Nipple discharge is nothing to worry about

Breast discharge may seem like something you shouldn’t be having unless you’re a breastfeeding mom. However, that’s not really the case. Many women experience all kinds of breast discharge in their life, so we can safely say that it’s nothing you should worry about.

Discharge can come in all kinds of colors. That means you shouldn’t expect it to be milky white by default. Sometimes, it can even be a bit yellowish. As long as your breast discharge isn’t bloody, you’re in the clear. 

It won’t always ooze out on its own either. Sometimes, you’ll have to squeeze it out.

3. Nipple-gasm is an actual thing

If you find that you have sensitive nipples, we have great news for you. You can actually have a nipple orgasm — or nipple-gasm for short — by touching your nipples in certain ways. If it sounds impossible, that’s only because you haven’t experienced it yet.

This can be achieved through the simple act of nipple play. They are a huge erogenous zone, and you don’t need any special sex toys, but you can definitely use them. We highly recommend nipple clamps for more intense orgasms, but if you are feeling a little adventurous, you can try electro nipple clamps. You may check these amazing products from lovegasm website.

Still, how are these orgasms possible? Actually, there are studies showing that sensations from nipple stimulation and vaginal stimulation travel to the same pleasure centers in our brains. What does this mean? Well, if penetration or clitoral play can make you orgasm, so can nipple play. This type of orgasm might require a bit more practice to reach though. Still, keep on trying, and you’ll experience a wave of pleasure.

4. Nipples are bumpy

Sometimes, while you’re inspecting your breasts, you’ll find small bumps all over your nipples. They can come in various sizes, be hairy, or even look white. What does this mean? This phenomenon is yet another thing that shouldn’t concern you. Those little bumps are only your Montgomery glands.

What do these glands do? Montgomery glands contain a combination of milk and oils, and they release this substance. Most often, they produce oils that lubricate and protect your entire nipple area. In doing this, Montgomery glands ensure that your nipples stay infection-free.

5. Nipple hairs are Okay

In today’s society, women are taught that having any type of hair is unacceptable and that they should remove it. It’s not bad for their health, but women should be ladies, which requires them to look the part. In the quest to become completely smooth, women turn to all kinds of techniques. So what happens when you find hair on your nipples? We assure you, it’s no reason to panic.

All women are different, which means that some have more hair than others. Hairy nipples are a completely normal thing that is no cause for concern. If they really bother you or make you feel insecure, you can carefully pluck them or shave them off.

6. Nipples help you bond with your baby

We all know that babies love breasts. That’s probably because they associate them with food (also, they’re like soft cushions!). That’s why many kids don’t have it easy when the time comes to wean them off. If you’re a breastfeeding mom, you’ll have plenty of bonding time with your baby during feeding time.

This is because your baby is continuously touching you and being attached to you. You bond with another human being through way less physical contact. So it’s only natural to conclude that nipples are a great way for you to bond with your child.

7. An extra nipple sometimes appears

Having an extra nipple isn’t something that should concern you. Sure, seeing it can definitely make you feel a little strange. Still, an extra nipple is nothing more than extra mammary tissue. So who can get an extra set of nipples? Just about anyone. In fact, around 6% of all people have one. Most of them take some time to even notice it.

These nipples have a name too. They’re supernumerary nipples. Even though these growths are harmless, you should still treat them as regular nipples. That’s because they can still be susceptible to infections.


It’s safe to say that there are plenty of things that can happen to our nipples. Most of them are completely harmless. Make sure you know exactly what your nipples are like so that you can notice any changes. Don’t stress yourself out before anything bad actually happens.

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Best approach to anal play with a butt plug

Butt plugs are a certain kind of sex toy. Basically they are conical and serve to relax the muscles of the sphincter. Through the use of anal plug – anal sex becomes painless and will permeate only pleasant sensations. There is traffic jams designed for long wear, that is, for a longer preparation for anal sex. The assortment of store also presents metal plugs. This type of traffic jams is designed for long wear. Having a rather large weight, they gently act on the sphincter muscles, at the same time exciting and preparing for anal sex. Expanding plugs are also presented, which also quite gently act on the sphincter muscles and create a feeling of fullness.

How to choose butt plug?

Vibrating butt plug vs. vibrator, what’s the difference? In order to choose the anal plug, you need to decide on some parameters. If you are just starting to learn anal sex, then you should pay attention to traffic jams of small sizes because the sphincter is not yet prepared for a significant expansion. It is not necessary in the first to immediately seek to have anal sex with a partner. For this you need to prepare. Beginners are well suited metal plugs for long wear.

If you have already practiced anal sex preparation for anal sex will be much faster. To do this, you need to purchase an anal plug of approximately the same diameter that you have previously used, or a little more. The anal passage is very sensitive and quite easily injured. So do not overdo it even if you took a larger plug than you can enter. Don’t be upset! Thanks to the conical shape and neat actions you will eventually succeed.

Do I need anal lubrication?

You are a fool or a person already practicing anal sex – always use a lubricant! It is desirable on a silicone basis, if the material of the sex toy allows. Anal lubricant has a relaxing effect and minimizes the risk of injury. Silicone-based lubricants provide better slip, they are required significantly less compared to water-based lubricants. In addition, silicone anal lubricant can even be used in the bathroom or shower, which will give you and your partner new sensations.

If you purchased a sex toy from silicone, then you need to use a water-based anal lubricant with it. Otherwise, the silicone from the toy and the silicone from the lubricant may react, and it will lose its original appearance. You can buy anal lubricant in our store. These lubricants are grouped in the “Anal Lubricants ” group.

What else is needed for the “right anal sex”?

They are collected in the section “Anal sex “. In short, we can mention such things as an anal shower and cleansing sprays for sex toys – they are presented in the “Hygiene” section. Basically, to enjoy anal sex – you need information. As they say, informed – armed. When you know what you want and how to achieve it, and also know how to guard against unwanted moments, you will only enjoy having anal sex.

How to choose butt plug?

In order to choose the anal plug, you need to decide on some parameters. If you are just starting to learn anal sex, then you should pay attention to traffic jams of small sizes because the sphincter is not yet prepared for a significant expansion. It is not necessary in the first to immediately seek to have anal sex with a partner. For this you need to prepare. Beginners are well suited metal plugs for long wear.

If you have already practiced anal sex preparation for anal sex will be much faster. To do this, you need to purchase an anal plug of approximately the same diameter that you have previously used, or a little more. The anal passage is very sensitive and quite easily injured. So do not overdo it even if you took a larger plug than you can enter. Don’t be upset! Thanks to the conical shape and neat actions you will eventually succeed.

Do I need anal lubrication?

You are a fool or a person already practicing anal sex – always use a lubricant! It is desirable on a silicone basis, if the material of the sex toy allows. Anal lubricant has a relaxing effect and minimizes the risk of injury. Silicone-based lubricants provide better slip, they are required significantly less compared to water-based lubricants. In addition, silicone anal lubricant can even be used in the bathroom or shower, which will give you and your partner new sensations.

If you purchased a sex toy from silicone, then you need to use a water-based anal lubricant with it. Otherwise, the silicone from the toy and the silicone from the lubricant may react, and it will lose its original appearance. You can buy anal lubricant in our store. These lubricants are grouped in the “Anal Lubricants ” group .

What else is needed for the “right anal sex”?

They are collected in the section ” Anal sex “. In short, we can mention such things as an anal shower and cleansing sprays for sex toys – they are presented in the “Hygiene” section. Basically, to enjoy anal sex – you need information. As they say, informed – armed. When you know what you want and how to achieve it, and also know how to guard against unwanted moments, you will only enjoy having anal sex.

How to choose a big butt plug?

The pleasure of anal sex people get is not the first century, but so far this kind of pleasure is considered something forbidden: it is associated with many taboos, myths and prejudices. However, those who are not ashamed of their own desires, can relax and strive to get the brightest sensations, it is known that it is the stimulation of the anus zone and anal penetrations that can give unforgettable orgasms. You can receive them together with a partner, or independently, using for this anal plugs. If you are a real sex guru, you should try anal toys of very immodest dimensions that will provide really deep penetration.

How to choose a big butt plug?

Deciding to buy such models, do not forget to attach high-quality lubricants to them in the kit: even the most “trained” lovers can have large anal plugs, inserted without lubrication, can cause discomfort, reducing excitement to nothing. An important point, which should also be taken into account when using large anal plugs , is maximum relaxation: if you are tense, it is much easier to traumatize the muscles of the sphincter, and this is fraught with various problems.

As for the question, what kind of traffic jams to choose, it all depends on your preferences: experienced sex gourmets who seek the maximum variety of sensations can experiment with glass models. Their advantages include the possibility of cooling or heating the material, which provides a new and unforgettable pleasure.

If you want to first feel the sensations that provide anal plugs of large sizes , it is better to look at inflatable models – they allow you to change the size of the toy, selecting the optimal dimensions. So you can much easier to enter the cork without discomfort, and already when it is inside – to increase it to the desired length and diameter.

Butt plugs are a great stimulant. Therefore, their acquisition will allow you to get an unforgettable experience during sex games. These toys are very popular, because the impressions of it are indescribable. In our store you can find the best butt plugs of all shapes, sizes and colors. Their variety is really impressive. By the way, some toys can be worn under clothing, orgasm for an orgasm.

How to pick up the anal plug

Anyone can buy butt plugs but choosing the right one can be tricky, visit loveplugs, read their helpful articles or check their product listings with informative descriptions. Surely it will help you decide. If you are just starting to use this toy, we recommend purchasing a small accessory. Also be sure to use a special lubricant for more abundant lubrication. The material for the anal plug should be soft and elastic silicone. It is a completely safe raw material that does not cause allergies. Therefore, it can even be used for contact with very delicate skin. For more experienced people, you can choose a hard tube of large sizes. You are guaranteed to experience new sensations and great pleasure.

Butt plugs in the internet

Buying from web shops, you can be confident in the highest quality of the product. To reveal the hidden potential, several times to strengthen the resulting orgasm and discover for yourself a completely new side of erotic perfection, you will be helped by products from the category of anal plugs.

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Latex Allergy: Causes & Symptoms

Natural rubber latex carries certain proteins that lead to adverse effects while in contact with human skin at times. These reactions are generally termed as “latex allergy”. The allergy manifests itself in the form of itches all around the skin & hives. Sometimes, in extreme situations it can cause anaphylaxis. It’s a condition in which the throat swells up considerably, resulting in difficulty to breathe properly.

If one has experienced such symptoms or is interested to know more as precaution, it is important to first understand what latex allergy is, what causes it & the sources where latex can be found.

Cause of latex allergy

The immune system of a person with latex allergy is going to identify latex as a harmful substance & automatically trigger an antibody against it. And, that further leads to  inevitable reactions to any & all exposure to or contact with latex or products containing it.

These reactions are the cause of histamine & other chemicals being released into the bloodstream while one comes in contact with a latex substance. The intensity of the allergic reactions eventually lessen with each time one is exposed to latex through a process called sensitization. It’s a process where due to the presence of previously existing antibodies, the total damage done to the system is largely absorbed by the antibodies.

The two ways that an allergic reaction to Latex can happen are:-

  1. Direct Contact- Mostly, allergic reaction to latex takes place through direct contact with regular everyday materials like condoms, balloons or gloves made of latex.
  2. Inhalation-Latex products let out latex particles into the air, which travel & can be inhaled by allergic person(s), leading to a reaction.

The intensity of the allergy found in people can vary in degrees ranging from mild to severe. The intensity depends on how the latex has come in contact with the allergy inflicted person & how long the exposure to it was.

Symptoms of latex allergy

Let’s go over some of the common symptoms on the basis of intensity.

Mild symptoms include:

  • Itching,
  • Hives,
  • Skin irritation & redness.

Severe symptoms:

  • Sneezing,
  • Running nose,
  • Scratchy throat,
  • Itchy eyes,
  • Cough

The two types of symptoms listed above are indications of latex allergy but they don’t pose a significant threat in terms of creating a life or death situation if treated properly & in time.
However, in the most severe cases, the affected person may experience anaphylaxis and it could be a life-threatening issue. Anaphylaxis generally happens from a repeated exposure to latex and is mostly observed in over-sensitive persons.

Anaphylaxis is marked by symptoms similar but overarching to the one’s found in mild latex allergies, for example:

  • Nausea,
  • Drop in blood pressure,
  • Wheezing,
  • Drop in blood pressure,
  • Skin irritation & itching,
  • Confusion,
  • And in extreme cases, loss of consciousness.

Remedy & prevention

In cases of mild allergy, an anti-allergic & a conversation with a doctor to find quick remedies should be enough.

In the case of something like anaphylaxis, emergency medical consultation should be sought immediately. It’s an extreme case and as mentioned previously, could lead to fatal results. A correct diagnosis is of utmost priority in situations like this.

About one third of those diagnosed with latex allergies haven’t shown any symptoms of it other than skin diagnoses till date. But if detected once, the patient should become increasingly alert & mindful of any situation where latex exposure can be possible.  Alongside, he should take preventive measures to prevent possible interaction latex beforehand. In the case of high sensitivity, anaphylactic shocks can be very likely because of the mucosal absorption of latex protein allergens from communication with latex.

Therefore, the first & most important step for latex allergy patients is to ensure a latex-free treatment.  Careful attention should be taken to avoid any material containing any trace of latex. Also, powder free latex gloves should be used to prevent airborne exposure to latex.

Latex allergy affects thousands of people. These persons experience IgE-mediated cutaneous, respiratory, and systemic allergic reactions. A reduction of the total protein level on latex rubber devices may prevent further sensitization and eliminate latex allergic reactions.

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